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Traumatic grief Anger management Professionals Guide This booklet has been produced by: Victims Unit: Office of the First Minister and Deputy First Minister © PG/03/01 What is anger? Anger is an emotional response experienced by all people. It can vary from mild irritation to extreme rage, and can build up over long periods of time or burst forth in a matter of seconds. It is natural for people to have different levels of anger in their lives. This is due to differences in personal or fami
  Professionals Guide Traumatic griefAnger management  This booklet has been produced by: Victims Unit:Office of the First Minister and Deputy First Minister  ©  PG/03/01  2 What is anger? Anger is an emotional response experienced by all people. It can vary frommild irritation to extreme rage, and can build up over long periods of timeor burst forth in a matter of seconds. It is natural for people to havedifferent levels of anger in their lives. This is due to differences in personalor family circumstances, and body chemistry.Anger can be caused not just by what other people do to us but alsoby what we do ourselves. It could be directed at family, co-workers,friends, or strangers. It can be caused by excessive worrying, traumaticmemories, sleep disturbance, substance or alcohol abuse, illness, stress,and poor communication.Anger is a natural response when a person feels threatened. The brainreleases hormones and other chemicals to excite the body and prepare itfor action. The way a person thinks changes so that they are morefocussed on aspects of a situation which they feel threatened by, and lessconcerned about the opinions of others. In highly threatening situationsthis can be a way for the individual to protect themselves as a last resort.Both trauma and bereavement can leave people feeling very angry.Dealing with injustice, blame and the necessity of continuing on with lifeare all sources of anger which are normally experienced after a traumaticdeath. Although this anger will resolve itself with time, for some people itwill be prolonged. They may need to control their anger, to express itsafely or control its impact on others. Anger management Excessive anger is difficult to define and will vary from person to person.Usually if a person has a problem with anger they will know it themselves.They may act in ways that feel out of control or frightening. They willbecome angered by things which were not a problem in the past, or willfeel misunderstood.The goal of anger management is to reduce the physical and emotionalpressure to act out aggression. This is done by identifying anger triggers(e.g. not being listened to) and developing a plan for dealing with these asthey arise. Skills such as relaxation (deep breathing) or distraction(counting) are often used to control anger, or safe methods of expressinganger are used (exercise or keeping an anger diary).  Skills for managing anger Awareness and preparation  – this is the most effective method ofmanaging anger. It involves identifying causes of anger and planningwhat to do when they arise. Having a plan in advance can give back asense of control and optimism to the person.One of the most important steps in this process is identifying the changeswhich occur when we begin to get angry. Very often these changesinvolve speeding up the heart rate and breathing. Other signs includefrowning, feeling flushed, tension in the shoulders, and irritability. Oncethese signs are identified, the person can work on a method of avoidingescalation into full blown anger.Identifying causes of anger can be done with either the help of a friend oralone (e.g. keep private ‘anger diaries’ of when and how anger takescontrol). These can help the person see if there are patterns or triggersassociated with their anger such as places, people, time, events (they mayalso include traumatic memories, sleep disturbance, caffeine, alcohol,family members, co-workers, finances, time of day). Once triggers areidentified, the person can decide on the best method of dealing with them. Avoidance  – avoidance is a good way of managing the sources of stress ineveryday life so that they do not become overwhelming. For example, aperson may avoid thinking about a distressing memory or situation duringworking hours but put aside time at night to reflect on it. Alternatively,they may only expose themselves to mild triggers and avoid others untilsuch time as they feel they are ready to deal with them. Avoidance canhelp make life more stable and predictable, and gives the person controlover their progress. This can be especially useful immediately after atraumatic death, when people are more likely to be overwhelmed. Distraction  – distraction is an effective way of dealing with anger as itarises. It involves switching a person’s attention away from their angerwhen that anger is destructive. Instead, the person focuses on:ãa sensation (e.g. taking a deep breath, finger tapping);ãan action (e.g. counting to ten slowly);ãa thought (e.g. I am calm) 3
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